Here is another short story that is related to a re-occurring event with my mother. She loved ice cream. She particularly liked an ice cream store/restaurant called “Blake’s Ice Cream” in Manchester, New Hampshire.
Her favorite flavor was Pistachio. Of course, that ice cream is green and usually has Pistachio Nuts, although some businesses substitute walnuts, perhaps because they are less expensive.
We would sit down to order and the unsuspecting waitress would come along. My mother would announce that she would like a Hot Fudge Sundae. Then, the fun would begin. She would say, “But does your Pistachio ice cream come with real pistachio nuts?” The waitress would reply, “I don’t know! Wait a minute. I’ll go find out.” She would dutifully trot over to the manager and pose the question.
With a big smile on her face, she would return to the table and say, “YES! Real pistachios!” At that, my mother would say, “Oh, I only like walnuts in my pistachio ice cream. I’ll have to order something else!”
She would get her sundae, (with marshmallow – hold the whipped cream, please), and her coffee. After loading many “creamers” into her coffee, she would announce that the coffee was too cold to drink, and would the waitress please bring her a HOT cup of coffee?

My mother was much more sane when my father was still around. He died in 1974 and she lived another 31 years. Here is a photo of them in the 1930s.
Yes, my mother was impossible in so many little and big ways! A year before she died, I brought her new pajamas in the nursing home. She ONLY wore pajamas. However, that day, she was in one of her moods, and said, “Take those back! (I’d removed all the tags). Patti, Whaaaat were you thiiiiinking? You know I don’t wear pajamas!”
Her death certificate said that she had Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s disease, and she died of a heart attack. No matter what the cause of “nutty” behavior, it is sometimes just too tough to take. Hurt and upset by her words, I did not see her for a year after the “incident,” which happened to have occurred on Christmas Eve, when she threw all of my gifts at me and didn’t want anything. She died among her “new” friends, those who saw her everyday and could accept her behavior because she was not their mother.
Funny, the things we remember most are the quirky incidents of life. Day to day stuff, on the other hand, just “is.”
Patricia Cummings
Quilter’s Muse Publications