Who Will Speak for You?
Saturday, April 19th, 2008Unless you are a writer, or unless you keep a diary, or write lots of letters that someone keeps, no one will tell your life or your thoughts from your perspective, once you are gone. Your life will be a guessing game to anyone who tries to reconstruct something other than the obvious facts such as vital statistics.
Life is ever changing. Oh, how we value the words of Lowell Mill Girl, Lucy Larcom! Oh, how we treasure the penned lines of poetry written by Robert Frost! Oh, how we cling to the short but memorable quote of FDR. (”We have nothing to fear but fear itself.”) How we easily call to mind quotes that rendered meaning at the time, but also have universal meaning.
Words increase in value. They share insight into the workings of the human soul. Words reflect who we are. Words are memory devices, helping people to remember those who are no longer here; those who cannot speak for themselves. Words share a collective knowledge of how to do things.
Moreover, words tell us what not to do. They provide life lessons from those who have survived until now. Words provide wisdom. Although words are common, they are necessary, and it is only the most introspective person who is taciturn, and parsimonious with his words.
While you are still above ground, it is a good idea to share “encouraging words” with others. You may have had a rift with a son or daughter, and egos being what they are, perhaps it will take you to rise above the situation and just let love prevail. This sentiment has been voiced in the past: a kind word turneth away much scorn.
Words: we take them for granted. They can either soothe or incite, teach or belittle, be memorable or be blown away on a breeze.
Of course, one of the most important pieces of writing involves little more than your name, and that is a legal set of papers called Advance Directives. If you can no longer speak for yourself, due to a serious and irreversible, life threatening, medical condition, the paperwork will instruct your doctors to not begin artificial means of keeping you alive. Of course, we all hope that such a situation would not arise. Life is fragile and we never know what is coming next!
I urge you to write down some words about your life and about thoughts and experiences you’ve had during your earthly sojourn. In the future, someone will want to know what it was like to live in the year 2008. Only you can report that information because only you possesses a unique vision of the subject from a personal perspective.
One of the papers I most enjoy was scrawled in pencil by my mother’s grandfather. He wrote to her from Georgia after she’d just moved “up north,” with her family, at the age of five, in 1918. The most endearing part was the greeting: “Dear Weencsy Scrap,” his nickname for her because she was a frail child. Today, it matters not that he was semi-literate. The message was written with love and I am sure that my mother enjoyed the attention from her dear old grandpa whom she never saw again.
Yes, words count. Of course, the most important words in any language are, “I love you.”
Have a super day! Spring is here in northern New England and the flowers are blooming!
Patricia Cummings



